Jeanne PhillipsDEAR ABBY: Our 22-year-old son stays with us. He has a part-time job and goes to school part-time. He is secretive. We don’t know his friends or where he goes.
He brought a male friend over and they hung out in our guest house, drinking and playing video games. This went on for several hours and then the blinds closed. My husband wasn’t comfortable with that, so he went in to talk to them. He asked the friend if he had a girlfriend, and the friend said no – that he’s bisexual. Our son then announced he is bisexual.
We have only met one girl that he dated and the male friend who was over. The friend did say he isn’t interested in our son, that they are strictly friends. I don’t think my husband should have quizzed our son in front of his friend.
Our son has a chip on his shoulder and an “I don’t care attitude” about many things. He blames things on his ADHD. He acts like he can’t multitask or concentrate on what he’s supposed to do. He tries, but if he forgets to do something, he gets an attitude from time to time. I don’t know what to think. – FRUSTRATED IN WASHINGTON
DEAR FRUSTRATED: I can’t help but wonder if your husband would have been as curious (and intrusive) if your son had been entertaining a woman.