DEAR ABBY: I’m a 58-year-old woman, divorced for three years. I have started going to online dating sites. I post nice pictures, nothing sexy, but the kind of attention I’m getting is not what I want. How can I come across as a woman who wants a longterm relationship and not a “friends with benefits” or a hook-up? – LOST IN THE ONLINE DATING WORLD
DEAR LOST: If someone wants to move your “relationship” to the next level before you are ready, you need to say you are not comfortable in moving so quickly. It’s straightforward and honest.
It occurs to me that there are many kinds of dating sites, and you may be on the wrong ones. If you have friends who are also in the dating world, ask them which they use. But if you have no luck there, consider meeting suitable men the old-fashioned way – by being introduced by people you know and who know you well.
DEAR ABBY: I am wondering if anyone else has ever asked about this. I have had the same cleaning woman for three years. She does an excellent job and works hard. I got her the last six or seven of her clients. However, she has made little changes in the past when I’m not home.
For example, she reorganized a kitchen drawer and laundry room cabinet without first clearing it with me. Yesterday, when I walked into my laundry room, I noticed two pictures had been removed from the wall and rehung in my living room. Furthermore, she used three nails to hang them and left the first nail in the wall because she had made a mistake. I removed the pictures and returned them to their original spots. The three holes in the living room wall remain.