DEAR ABBY: I’m in an eight-month relationship with a man who is a sexy good dancer. (I’m also a good dancer.) My dilemma is, he attracts a lot of female attention on the dance floor, and sometimes women aggressively come up and dance next to us, vying for his attention (which we usually ignore). Most of the time, I pay them no attention, but it sometimes affects our enjoyment because I get annoyed.
He says he knows why I feel this way with some and that I should deal with it however I’d like to. He doesn’t actively pursue the advances, and I know we’re in love, but I’d like your advice on how to handle it. I’m astonished at how some women ignore boundaries when you’re obviously in a relationship. Men don’t do this to me. — BOTHERED IN THE WEST
DEAR BOTHERED: Your boyfriend is already doing his best to ignore the advances he receives. Unless you are ready to tell the hussies to “Back off, Honey, he’s MINE!” follow his lead. Yes, some women are aggressive, tasteless and seemingly desperate. You can’t change them, and neither can I, but you can change the way you react to a situation you can’t control.
DEAR ABBY: I remarried several years after my first wife passed away. I thought they were different people, but they share one maddening trait. They refuse to use the phone! Of course they talk to the children, relatives and friends, but to no one who must be contacted for a business reason.
For example, my wife is unwilling to phone the vet, carpet cleaning service or insurance agency. All such matters are dumped on me. In addition, when I do call for her, she insists on standing next to me giving orders on what I should say or how or who to talk to. Please let me know how to get my wife to use the phone. — TIRED OF IT IN THE EAST